Rebuilding Self-Esteem and Self-Trust: A Journey Within

Life has a way of testing our self-esteem and self-trust. From setbacks and failures to inner doubts and external criticisms, maintaining a strong sense of self can be a challenging endeavor. However, it's essential to understand that self-esteem and self-trust are not fixed qualities; they can be rebuilt and strengthened over time. In this blog post, we'll explore how to embark on a journey of self-renewal.

Creating Safety Within

Self-trust is akin to building a sanctuary within yourself. It's about creating a safe space where you can be honest with yourself, radically and unapologetically. Remember that self-trust is not solely contingent on getting everything right. It's about being that safe space for yourself, especially when things go awry, whether you are responsible for the outcome or not.

🗝️Key Takeaway: Your inner sanctuary is a cornerstone of self-trust. Cultivate it through radical honesty and self-compassion.

🌱Practical Practice:  Tell yourself the truth.  Always.  Make a pact with yourself that truth does not require action.    

Focus on What You Can Do

Self-trust encourages a shift in perspective—from dwelling on what you can't do to focusing on what you can. Understand that many "can'ts" often hide unexplored "shoulds" or are limitations imposed by fear or self-doubt.

🗝️Key Takeaway: Self-trust invites you to challenge any "shoulds" and instead explore what you really want without self-imposed limitations.

🌱Practical Practice:  Make a list of your strengths and accomplishments.  Add to it every time you accomplish something, use your strengths or act in alignment with your values.  Bring attention to any "shoulds" you may be using against yourself.  Are they really desires or representations of what you think you should desire?  

Treating Yourself with Love and Compassion

Self-compassion is an essential element of rebuilding self-esteem and self-trust. It means extending kindness and understanding to yourself, akin to how you treat others. Instead of harsh self-criticism, cultivate self-compassion, especially in challenging times.

🗝️Key Takeaway:  Be gentle with yourself, especially during moments of self-doubt or difficulty. Self-compassion is a potent tool for rebuilding self-esteem.

🌱Practical Practice:  Begin to bring attention to your self judgments. Imagine speaking to yourself as a dear friend or even your toddler self.  Ask yourself what self-compassion and love would like in these moments.  

Taking Responsibility and Staying True to Values

Self-trust involves taking responsibility for your actions and decisions. It's about having the courage to adhere to your values, even when faced with tough choices or external pressures.

🗝️Key Takeaway: When you trust yourself, you're more likely to stay true to your beliefs, even in the face of adversity.

🌱Practical Practice:  Own your decisions, words, actions.  The good and the bad.  Make yourself a safe space to evaluate without judgment or comparison.  Make a list of your values and use them as a filter for how you make decisions, speak and act.  

A Lifelong Journey of Self-Renewal

Rebuilding self-esteem and self-trust is a lifelong journey—one that requires commitment and self-reflection. Remember that these qualities are not fixed but can be strengthened through inner work and personal growth. And the best news is it is the kinder, gentler way that actually propels us forward!  Trust yourself to be your own greatest ally, and you'll discover the strength and resilience to navigate life's challenges with grace, authenticity and a power that is hiding under layers of judgment. 

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